Before you raise FINGER

Look at YOURSELF  first.
Think calmly.
ANALYZE.
Let LOGIC prevail over raw EMOTION.

Don't raise a finger.
It is never productive.
Call & discuss the differences and justify your views.
Exert Influence , negotiate , be ETHICAL.

If situation so demands,
make a TACTICAL retreat to gain time and resources.
To make a fresh bargain later from an advantageous position.

Make amends if you are on the WRONG.
Don't try to RIGHT a WRONG by another WRONG.

Trust and be TrustWORTHY

You must TRUST your team members.
And You MUST earn their TRUST.

A team is NOT a TEAM if members don't trust each other.
Trust is a very strong binding force essential for Teamwork.

Be Trustworthy .
Otherwise, You will not succeed as a Leader.
Team will not believe in what you say.

Trust breeds cooperation and collaboration
characteristic of teamwork.

Earn trust by leading from the front , leading by examples :

• By being objective and unbiased in assessment.
• By display of Ethical behavior
• By being confident in your work style and subject knowledge.
• By lending a helping hand whoever genuinely needs.
• By empowerment , delegation of authority to the competent
• By being Truthful and keeping commitments
• By rewarding the deserving candidate.

 

Listen with your ear & EYEs

"Listen with EYES !?
When I have two BIG EARs !?"

I get , almost always, a questioning look , when I say this.
The Look from the listener conveys "Are You MAD?"

Well, I have HEARD the first two lines many times.
In addition , I also hear the emotion behind the statements.
I also see the emotions reflected on the speaker's facial profile.

As my eardrums are working fine , I will always HEAR.
Anyone with the working membrane intact will HEAR always.

We HEAR always.
But do we LISTEN ?

When we LISTEN , do we SEE ?
When we LISTEN and SEE , do we REALIZE ?
When we LISTEN , SEE  and REALIZE , do we RESONATE ?

Well, Hearing and Listening are NOT same.

Hearing is a Mechanical  vibration of your eardrums which mostly reaches the brain.
Listening is more than that - it involves your mind and heart.
It involves seeing and realizing.
It is an experience in itself.
Very Enriching, Very Revealing , Very rewarding Experience quite often.

Rule is :
1. PREPARE to hear : Don't interrupt , don't be judgmental in the beginning
2. OBSERVE tone and body language of the speaker ( HEAR with EYEs !)
3. APPRAISE any emotions hidden behind the statements
4. EVALUATE the statements : are you in PHASE or out of PHASE ?
5. DON'T React , THINK

Listening carefully,
- you learn lot of clues , knowledge not explicit - on the subject , about the speaker
- imparts clarity to the problem at hand , move toward solution faster
- helps you realize  future  gain or potential conflict
- avoids misunderstanding on critical issues







 

Never start with NO

 

NO is not the BEST word as the 1st word of your answer.

It conveys a NEGATIVITY instantly to your
colleagues, your boss, your family members.

If "NO" is the  only viable solution , say "NO".
However, don't start with "NO,....."

Remember.
You can DELIVER a "NO"  while actively adopting
a POSITIVE approach to solving a problem.

If "NO" is the best answer, don't say "Yes".

However, first and most important  , convey
your sincerity ,
your determination ,
your alignment to the common goal
your resourcefulness to solve the problem.

Then  spread the logic , your basis of saying "NO". This approach brings forth understanding of your position by your counterpart. In situations, this may even lead to a solution that is Win-Win for both. Even if you don't come to an agreement, it is known why you said "NO".

Be sensitive to use of your language.
It does not pay at all being disrespectful even when you strongly disagree on a view point.

Be resourceful.
Offer a solution with sufficient background and support material , that is better than the current proposal.
Do, praise the good points of  the opponent's proposal while highlighting better aspects of your proposal.

Be ready to negotiate hard.
You can't win a battle by turning your face away from the battlefield. You must hold the ground patiently to put forward your view.Be persistent.

Show humility
However convey STRENGTH in your voice and body language.


Self Check  : Do you start like this ?
"No, I would like to say...."
"No, It is impossible to do it in such short time..."
"No, no, no, you can't do it this way ...."

Observe carefully , better ask feedback from reliable friends, colleagues and family members.
Strange it may sound, some person habitually starts with "NO" , even when they mean "YES".

If you happen to share this habit,
throw it like a rotten apple in a compost-bin.
Wear a new face of positivity and YES apple.

 

unputdownable WILL overcomes Obstacles

Drive headlong into the challenge.
Carry your firepower - your determination , your foresight.
Ram it with all might and break free.

Obstacle is NOT as powerful as you are.
 In reality , it MAY NOT exist even.
Sometimes it exists only in the corner of our mind.
Sweep that corner , clear the dust , open the window of reason
and wisdom .

Let light shine.
Overcome the ghost of illogical.

Your judgement based on reality is crucial.
Find the Direction to enforce your will , to channelize energy.
Concentrate on strategy that is driven both by wisdom, knowledge and fierce determination.
 
In the end
What exists is your unputdownable WILL.
Obstacles will bow before your will.
Know for sure, it will.
 

HOT before TIME : Do it NOW

DO it NOW
If you CAN'T do it TOMORROW.
           [ my smiling push to my boys & other team members ]

TOMORROW will always come,
NOW will NEVER.

DO it NOW,
Or YOU may not DO IT EVER.

This is one of my favorite posters I kept pinned up -
               one in front wall - to remind ME of my favorite Song
               one on the back wall -to remind visitors in my office.

Though late ,I understood the value of it.
Made my favorite song into a colorful PPT poster.

It always paid handsomely.
Doing it,before it is demanded by Client ,by my boss,by my team.

Prioritize you Must - at critical times , daily , if required.
Given the priorities, START , DON'T delay.
START right Away when the topic is HOT.

Procrastination is your worst enemy.
It defeats even the most resourceful individual.
Defeat this ENEMY.
Only YOU can do that.
No one else.






 

Productive Learning

Good Learning is a noble profession.

Putting Learning into Action for welfare of humanity is the noblest.

 

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